Happiness has always been a universal quest of humanity. We all want to be happy, loved, healthy and successful.
Over time, we realize that happiness has little to do with the events of life or with people around us. Happiness is a relative state of mind nourished by how we perceive all these.
As we get older, we tend to realize that happiness is only about our feelings, about our emotions. Happiness, and serenity are inner processes that we bring to life and nurture, rather than something we get from “out there.” Life always springs from within us.
The emotions, as well as the relationship between cognition, emotions and behaviour, are among the most controversial topics. The lack of indisputable scientific evidence on how the human mind works is fuelling a lot of controversy about cognition, perception, emotions and the behavioural decision-making.
Since the dawn of time there has been a consensus that our state of mind has a strong influence on our thoughts, our decisions and on the symptoms of all diseases. However, the concept of “state of mind” has undergone several changes. Traditionally, the heart was seen as the seat of the soul and its state reverberated in the physical body in the form of bodily sensation, commonly known as "feelings." During the ‘70s and till the end ‘90s, Ulric Neisser's cognitive-model has gained popularity. The cognitive model ridicules the concept of soul or spirit and emphasizes on the brain, which thus becomes the source of all emotions. However, keep in mind the cognitive model is nothing but a model, a hypothesis, a scientific paradigm.
After the enthusiasm of the wave of cognitive models, the traditional concept of feelings has restored its popularity in light of the scientific recognition of several contemporary models of emotional behavior, particularly the somatic marker behavioural model developed in the early 90's by the American neuroscientists Prof. Dr. Antonio Damasio and Prof. Dr. Joseph LeDoux. According to these recent updates, regardless of whether we are talking about emotions that are genetically determined or those that are somehow the result of a cognitive process, emotions always have a cognitive component that you can intellectualize and a somatic component that you feel as physical sensations in your body.
My perspective on the nature of human emotions and behaviour is founded on the physiological and neurological models and not on the psychological cognitive model. Whatever thought would cross your mind without awakening any feeling, it is nothing but a thought, not an emotion. Your emotions are the result of your cognitive observation filtered through your belief system, and you are supposed to feel them as bodily sensations. This process of filtering the reality and assigning an emotional meaning to the observed world is called perception. Therefore, you don’t “think” your emotions, you don’t think whether you are or you are not happy. Instinctively, you know it because you perceive it, you feel it and you trust your feelings.
From this biological and neurophysiological perspective, emotions are at the heart of life's regulatory processes of all living creatures, regardless of whether we are talking about emotions that are genetically determined or those that are the result of perception or of a cognitive process. When they occur, emotions cause a change in the state of your physiology, your mind and your body. Therefore, you can control your emotions only to the extent that you can change your physiology (your chemistry), change the way you perceive them (your mind) or change the state of your body (your emotional feelings). When they arise against your will, your feelings will have a powerful grip on you; They will control your thoughts and behavior.
As you already know, your state of mind and your powerful feelings have a strong grip on your thoughts, your behavior and on the symptoms of your illnesses. Just as your reason and thoughts have the power to awaken your lingering emotions or create new emotions. However, even if you manage to control the emotions created by your thoughts, I would not bet that your reason or your thoughts alone can really override your powerful feelings which, against your will, have become a constant presence in your life.
Because in real life, whatever feeling arises against your will, most likely, it will not succumb to your reason. Only what is born of reason can be banished by reason alone. Yet, regardless whether they arise against your will or from your reason, emotional feelings will always have a cognitive meaning, in the sense that your brain will know that your butterflies or your knots in the stomach are not real, but they tell you that you are in love or you are afraid. Therefore, when you'll do some crazy things apparently against your rational will, do not be deceived; It's not that you may lack judgment but rather your feelings have taken over your decision-making process.
Since there is a certain amount of feelings involved in each decision you make, it looks like living a fulfilled life is much more about emotions, feelings and beliefs than about intellect or thinking. The quality of your daily living decisions does not depend on your IQ or on the level and quality of what you have learned. The quality of your decisions depends on your emotional intelligence and on the quality of your values. This is good news actually, because while your IQ is an inborn gift that declines with aging, your emotional intelligence grows as you mature and you deepen your spirituality.
As emotions are an important part of life, people tend to spend a lot of time talking about their emotions, talking about how they feel. Talking about, or understanding the cognitive component of your emotions won’t necessarily help you getting rid of or heal the unwanted ones nor the negative associated feelings, the same as understanding what type of virus causes the flu won't necessarily cure it. Analyzing and understanding your unwanted emotions can eventually help you learn the strategies needed to cope with them, if living with a better perspective of your problems is what you really want.
Emotions always have a cognitive component that you can intellectualize and a somatic component that you feel as physical sensations in your body. You don’t necessarily "think" your fears. Fear is an emotion that you acknowledge through its cognitive component and whose presence you feel as a feeling in your body through its somatic component. You observe a situation, perceive a danger and you feel the fear. Angry people often say and do stupid things. Yet, the greater number of those who say or do stupid things on a regular basis are not necessarily angry people. This is because your strong emotions are driving your behaviour, not the other way around.
Obviously you don’t "think" your emotions. You think in words, sentences and images, and you feel your emotions as feelings, as physical sensations or "somatic markers" in your body. The practice of the somatic hypnotherapy is focused on these feelings or somatic markers, and identifies them in terms of either good/pleasant, or bad/unpleasant feelings. Although, by analyzing the cognitive component of emotions the study of conventional psychology as well as the practice of cognitive therapies describes many distinct emotions.
Through various spiritual teachings we learn that there are only two basic emotional feelings, that there are only two primal roots of all emotions: love and fear, which are correlative concepts such as light and darkness. We learn that heaven and hell aren't only Christian places: they are also states of mind.
The universal love is the most powerful force in universe. Love is life’s most powerful healer. If science tells us how the world was created and how it works, the spiritual teachings tell us that love has been the driving force, the reason the world has been created. Using the same recipe, we can create happiness through the expression of our unconditional love, a love that transcends all cultures and understanding.
Even though science cannot measure emotion, we all agree that there are basically only two types of emotion: positive and negative emotions. Love is the subtle driving energy of all our positive emotions. Our negative emotions are always driven by feelings of fear or pain, and if we don’t handle them wisely, over time these feelings can worsen and generate behavioural disorders and serious health problems.
Fear is an unpleasant feeling and it turns out to be the worst thing we should really fear, because once installed in our life, fear rules over all our thoughts, decisions and actions. To put it simply, fear can make the difference between success and failure in life. Fear is the killer of the human heart, because it's impossible to be happy, or to get people around you happy as long as you're afraid.
Behavioural disorders that are directly linked to fear include phobias, anxiety disorders, stress, panic attacks, depression, obsessive compulsive disorder and so on. All these negative emotions share one major root cause: persistent or severe feelings of fear or worry in situations where most people wouldn’t feel as scared.
Somatic hypnotherapy is a highly effective therapy in treating all types of behaviour disorders, phobias, anxieties, stress and other painful feelings, by treating very efficiently the fear as the most probable underlying core cause of these.
Whatever your fear may be, don't allow it to cripple your life.
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Disclaimer: The above content is intended for general informational purposes and does not constitute any psychological or other medical professional advice. I don't diagnose conditions, nor do I interfere with any treatments given by your medical professional.
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