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Healing emotional trauma
If you are looking for a faster way to heal your traumas, you are in the right place!
While physical wounds are strictly caused by what really happened, emotional wounds are caused by the perception of what happened or could have happened rather than by what actually happened. Even though, emotional wounds are as real and painful as physical wounds and can affect every aspect of your life.
Emotional trauma is only truly healed if, when you think about it or talk about it, you hardly feel anything that could bother you. Unhealed traumas can often look like: long-lasting stress and anxiety, frequent anger, chronic fatigue, insomnia, pain, nervous tics, various addictive behaviors, PTSD, and many other symptoms.
Experiencing stress or anxiety is considered a normal part of life when it is occasional and temporary. However, when these emotional reactions become more intense, more frequent, more persistent, or even chronic, they can significantly interfere with your daily life by altering your state of mind, which can disrupt the flow of rational thoughts, control your life and drive you to despair.
When talking about stress, there is neither a clear barrier nor an objective system of metrics that can be used to make a net difference between the so-called “normal” and pathological stress in terms of persistence or intensity. You are the only one to set the limits of what is and what is not suitable, acceptable, and bearable as stress. As a rule of thumb, whatever the nature of your stress, as soon as you perceive it as a negative emotion or unpleasant feeling, then it is a bad stress experience for you, with huge potential for causing harm and life-quality damage.
Unlike fear, which is an innate reaction with no cumulative effects, stress, and anxiety always have a cumulative effect. The stress you accumulate during the day and that does not evacuate overnight becomes your starting stress level the next morning, upon which you'll pile up fresh stress. Since resilience to stress is limited, unless you find an effective way to avoid stress or to evacuate it effectively, the accumulated stress will ultimately affect your well-being. In the long run, the cumulative effect of stress and anxiety can wreak havoc on your mind and body. When living with lasting stress, it’s much like living in a house full of mold. You feel it, and even if you do not see or touch it, it hurts you.
Stress is not about what happens to you. Stress is always about how you react to what happens in your environment. The common perception is that stress and anxiety are caused by external factors, processes, and events that happen to you, such as health issues, aging, family, career, financial issues, social tides, loneliness, life’s purpose, self-esteem, etc. Yet, you are not passively undergoing any of these. You are the one who makes sense of these everyday experiences, and it is you who perceive them as stressful, emotionally neutral, or joyful events.
Persistent or intense stress is always a negative ingredient of life. For as long as the stress is bearable, it will most likely be dissipated through the resilience mechanism, or eventually, induce bearable levels of anxiety. Stress never stays in your head. When you are stressed, your entire body is stressed, and you feel it inside your body. Your cognition acknowledges and confirms the presence of stress in your body by shifting your mind into a specific, stressed state of mind. When stress becomes extreme and stretches the perceived emotional tension beyond your tolerated limit, the emotional response mechanism may not be able to take the load and it may break down. Each time life deceives you, and the perceived reality stretches your feelings beyond your emotional tolerance, you may get emotionally hurt.
Although most people associate emotional trauma with exposure to extreme, unpredictable, and uncontrollable situations - such as war, natural disasters, major accidents, assault, or kidnapping -, most of those who suffer from emotional trauma have not themselves experienced nor witnessed extremely dangerous events. For this reason, emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, and bullying at school, at work, or at home are the leading causes of emotional traumas. The only true measure of a traumatic event is how you perceive it, not the objective evaluation of the event itself, or what others would think about that event. What really has the potential to fulfill or to haunt your life is the emotional reading of an event, not the event itself.
When the stress related to past events is lasting, and you remain constantly on high alert and irrationally focused on specific triggers related to past events, you are probably dealing with traumatic stress. In that case, specific noises, sounds, images, gestures, words, smells, or thoughts can trigger flashbacks and irrational behaviors. When a trigger reminds you of a traumatic event, time will seem to collapse, and you’ll feel a similar degree of fear or terror as you did when the original event happened. Thus, when exposed to your alert trigger, you can feel fearful or even terrorized in common situations that don’t represent any real danger to a rational mind.
It is unlikely to escape childhood without enduring hurtful or traumatic experiences. However, being trapped in your past only creates loops of negative thoughts that lead to unhappy lives, stagnant relationships, and self-defeating behaviors. Don't spend months - or years - haunted by unpleasant memories. Your life does not have to be controlled by childhood trauma, fear of failure, stress, anxiety, phobias, anger, bad habits, self-sabotaging behaviors, or low self-esteem.
Unlike the psychoanalytic approach that aims to foster change by helping you to understand your past and how past events could be affecting you now, in the Somatic Hypnotherapy approach, you do not necessarily need to understand or to know the exact roots of your irrational negative feelings to be able to uproot them. This is why Somatic Hypnotherapy is the therapy of choice for most symptoms related to hereditary and trans-generational PTSD emotional traumas.
Even though emotional trauma seems to be a highly individual experience, trans-generational PTSD, or hereditary trauma, as well as behavioral patterns may be transmitted across generations through the process of parental epigenetic programming. Thus, traumatic experiences can be passed down from generation to generation, such that children 6 years old and even younger may suffer from preschool traumatic stress and display similar behavioral issues as their parents, or their ancestors.
Unlike conventional hypnotherapy approaches that focus on adding a fresh layer of positive emotions over your lasting fears and traumas, Somatic Hypnotherapy is all about releasing the past by rearranging the emotional reading of the past traumatic experiences. In its change management framework, this approach focuses on changing the perception of past unpleasant events by altering the somatic component of negative emotions associated with unpleasant events.
Regardless of whether your post-traumatic stress has been induced by dangerous events, sexual or physical abuse, bullying or emotional abuse, or has been trans-generationally inherited, Somatic Hypnotherapy is an efficient tool to decompress the triggers and to release the symptoms of the trauma-related stress. This is possible thanks to a technique specific to somatic hypnotherapy that disables the traumatic emotional response pattern through a quick and efficient dissociative process between the traumatic emotions and the factual memories associated with that event.
Somatic Hypnotherapy can help you experience a significant improvement in the following symptoms of emotional traumas:
- Re-experiencing the traumatic event
- Frequent, upsetting thoughts or memories about a traumatic event
- Recurrent nightmares
- Acting or feeling as though the traumatic event is happening again - sometimes called a flashback
- Having strong feelings of distress when reminded of the traumatic event
- Physical responses when reminded of the traumatic event, such as a surge in your heart rate or sweating
- Actively avoiding people, places, or situations that remind you of the traumatic event
- Trying to avoid thoughts, feelings, or conversations about the traumatic event
- Trying to avoid places or people that remind you of the traumatic event
- Making sure you're too busy to have time to think about the traumatic event
- Feeling keyed up or on edge, known as hyper-arousal
- Having a difficult time falling or staying asleep
- Feeling more irritable or having outbursts of anger
- Difficulty concentrating
- Feeling constantly on guard or like danger is lurking around every corner
- Being jumpy or easily startled
- Having negative thoughts, feelings, and beliefs about yourself and others
- Having a difficult time remembering important parts of the traumatic event
- A loss of interest in important activities you once considered positive
- Feeling distant from others
- Experiencing difficulties having positive feelings, such as happiness or love
- Feeling as though your life may be cut short
Your emotional, trauma-related, and trigger-conditioned symptoms, which you will body-map at the beginning of your Somatic Hypnotherapy session, will progressively dissipate with my approach. Following somatic hypnosis therapy, you'll feel as if your heart has forgotten the stressful, anxious, traumatic, or painful component of the unpleasant events of your past, while your cognitive memory keeps intact the factual details. Once you release the causal emotions of your overreactions, you can change your perception of those past experiences, which in turn will readjust your behavior.
After your first session in Somatic Hypnotherapy, you will experience a significant improvement in your trauma-related anxiety, whatever its nature. After a maximum of three sessions, while revisiting the images, sounds, and cognitive understanding of the factual events of your trauma, you will feel as if your traumatic experience took place several hundred years ago and time has erased the negative feelings associated with the event that we have worked.
At the end of your therapy, you will be able to review the traumatic events we worked on and watch them like a movie that no longer touches you. Once the healing process is completed, the victims of a traumatic event will be able to confront a past threat or traumatic memory much more rationally, and without excessive fearful feelings or uncontrolled reactions.
Following your therapy in somatic hypnosis, you could think of everything you want, and your thoughts will no longer have the power to awaken your old feelings which were formerly painful or unpleasant.
Don’t remain imprisoned by memories of what others have done. Whatever your emotional trauma symptoms, don't allow them to cripple your life.
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Disclaimer: The above article may contain statements that reflect the opinion of the author. It is intended for general informational purposes and does not constitute psychological or medical professional advice. I don't diagnose medical conditions, nor do I interfere with any treatments given by your medical professional.
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*The results may vary from person to person.
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