Experiencing a major loss, breakup, or rejection always has serious consequences on your emotional health, morale, and self-worth.

Although grief is a personal experience with strong cultural influence and there is no standard for its duration, mourning and grief are suffering. When you have suffered enough, there comes a day when you feel that enough is enough and you want to leave it all behind, get rid of your pain and taste life again.

In your mind, things are now crystal clear. It's all over! Whether it's about losing a loved one, being betrayed, rejected, or irreparable harm, whatever it is, it's already happened, and no amount of pain can bring it back. And, you’ve heard it a thousand times: “You are what you think.” Change your thoughts, change your life—simple, right? If it were that easy, you wouldn’t still be wrestling with traumas, stress, anxiety, frustration, grief, anger, resentment, guilt, blame, shame, insomnia, nightmares, and a long series of anxiety-driven setbacks after months or even years of trying different approaches to ease this burden.

You’ve got your smarts—high IQs, higher degrees, careers that prove it—yet your conscious minds, sharp as you are, don’t call the shots. How can this even be possible? Well, your mind is not the boss you thought it was, but an intangible set of faculties split between two players: the conscious and the subconscious. The conscious mind is the accessible part—similar to a microprocessor with fast RAM—governing thoughts, intelligence, short-term memory, judgment, and coordinating deliberate actions. It’s the voice saying: “I’m fine, all that is behind me now.” But the subconscious? That’s the hard drive—storing life experiences and long-term memories, running most of your daily life on autopilot via habits, intuition, instinct, and emotional patterns.

That is why, as long as you carry the weight of trauma, grief, guilt, shame, stress, anxiety, anger, and other troubling emotions, you are wasting your time negotiating your rests with your conscious mind. What keeps you up at night is your subconscious mind, silently storing and managing your emotional burdens - beyond the intentional reach of your consciousness. You'll have to, somehow, make peace with your subconsciousness - whether you call it your soul, your spirit, or your sensitive heart - because, no matter how legitimate your anger or how pointless your guilt or shame are, unless you get rid of their burden, they are going to end up poisoning each and all aspects of your life - not the life of the one who caused all this suffering.

When you feel overwhelmed by strong feelings, you are prone to think, say and do things that you would not do if you were in a calm state of mind. When you have difficulties managing your reactions, and you neglect and allow your powerful feelings to pile up, then over time they can wreak havoc on all aspects of your emotional and somatic health. Unfortunately, beginning the healing and recovery process is not simple. When your grief lasts too long or is too intense, when you are going to extremes to avoid thinking or talking about your loss, when you have no more tears to cry, when you’re overwhelmed and incapacitated because of your persistent pain, sorrow, sadness, and fear, then you need help.

When you live with unpleasant feelings daily, I would not count on learning to cope with your negative feelings or on ridding yourself of the knots in your stomach just by thinking or talking about it, or by gaining a better understanding of what is going on. In real life, whatever feelings arise against your will, they are unlikely to succumb to your reason. For only that which is born of reason can be banished by reason alone. Therefore, somatic hypnosis therapy is always an option to consider, whether you are at the beginning of your misery, disappointed with other approaches, or are already living with unpleasant feelings and you are tired of learning how to cope.

I won't bet that you can break free of the emotionally unpleasant events of your past unless you'll free yourself of your unpleasant emotional feelings attached to them. In real life, you won't really "think" about whether you're in love or if you're terrified of something. You feel it and trust your feelings. Because what you feel is more powerful than what you think about what you feel, and more than likely, your life will be driven by your feelings, like it or not! While good feelings are driving your life on the path of health, happiness, serenity, and fulfillment, unpleasant feelings foster negative outcomes. Yet, when there isn't any feeling involved, you'll most likely act rationally.

Often caused by major loss, breakup, rejection, unresolved trauma, conflict, long-term stress and anxiety, the resulting feelings* and behavioral patterns can undermine self-esteem and make it difficult to achieve goals. These emotional reactions are often developed as survival mechanisms in response to disturbing past experiences, and some of the most common are:

• Sorrow: A lingering heaviness or ache in your body, often felt as a weight in your chest, tied to loss or disappointment.

• Bitterness: A sharp, burning sensation, like a sting in your heart, fueling resentment toward past betrayals or injustices.

• Frustration: A tense, restless feeling, as if your energy is blocked, making it hard to move forward.

• Regret: A gnawing sensation, often in your gut, tied to missed opportunities or past choices.

• Loneliness: An empty, hollow feeling in your body, craving connection but feeling isolated.

• Restlessness: A jittery, unsettled energy that disrupts calm, making relaxation or sleep elusive.

• Overwhelm: A sense of being flooded by emotions, felt as tightness or pressure, hindering clear thinking.

• Guilt or Shame: Heavy, constricting sensations, like a lump in your throat, tied to self-blame or perceived failures.

• Fear of Rejection: A tight, anxious feeling, often in your chest, that holds you back from new connections or risks.

• Emotional Exhaustion: A pervasive fatigue, even after rest, draining your energy and motivation.

• Helplessness: A sinking, powerless sensation, like a weight in your limbs, making action feel futile.

• Anguish: A deep, twisting pain in your core, as if your heart is being squeezed, tied to profound loss or betrayal.

• Distrust: A guarded, tense feeling, like a clenched fist in your chest, stemming from past hurts or broken trust.

• Hopelessness: A dull, empty ache, often felt in your whole body, as if possibilities are out of reach.

• Irritation: A prickly, heated sensation, like static under your skin, making you reactive or impatient.

• Yearning: A longing, pulling feeling in your heart, tied to unfulfilled desires or lost connections.

• Vulnerability: A raw, exposed sensation, like a tender spot in your chest, fearing judgment or harm.

• Suppressed Anger: A smoldering, tight feeling, often in your shoulders or jaw, held back but ready to erupt.

• Disappointment: A deflated, sinking feeling, like a weight in your stomach, tied to unmet expectations.

• Nervousness: A fluttery, unsteady sensation, like butterflies or a racing pulse, disrupting calm or focus.

• Insomnia: A restless, buzzing energy in your body, like a mind that won’t quiet, preventing restful sleep.

• Nightmares: A jolting, heavy sensation in your chest or gut, tied to vivid, unsettling dreams that disrupt peace.

• Grief-Weighted Apathy: A sluggish, heavy feeling, like moving through molasses, draining enthusiasm for life.

• Rejection Sensitivity: A sharp, stinging sensation in your chest, making even small slights feel deeply wounding.

• Smoldering Resentment: A slow-burning, tight heat in your core, tied to lingering grudges or unfair treatment.

• Loss-Induced Emptiness: A cold, vacant sensation, like a void in your heart, tied to the absence of someone or something cherished.

• Anger-Driven Tension: A rigid, coiled feeling, often in your neck or shoulders, ready to snap under pressure.

• Abandonment Fear: A gripping, hollow ache in your stomach, dreading being left alone or forgotten.

• Mourning Fatigue: A weary, dragging sensation, like carrying a heavy load, tied to prolonged grief.

• Betrayal Sting: A piercing, hot sensation in your chest, like a wound that flares with memories of disloyalty.

Unlike conventional hypnotherapy approaches that focus on adding a fresh layer of positive emotions on top of your fears and traumas, Somatic Hypnotherapy is all about releasing the past by rearranging the emotional reading of your past traumatic experiences. This therapy works with your model of the world, involving you in your therapy process so that changes are more easily accepted and long-lasting. Once you release the causal emotions of your sorrow, you can change your perception of those past experiences, which will in turn adjust your behavior.

Thanks to privileged access to your subconsciousness, Somatic Hypnotherapy is the tool of choice to get over a painful bereavement, because it is your subconscious mind that keeps you stuck in your past even though your rational mind understands that it's time to move on. Somatic hypnotherapy can help you to ease your grief by releasing the root source of your painful sadness. Your heart will feel as if it has greatly relieved or completely forgotten your painful emotional memories while your brain keeps vivid memories of factual details. Once your wounds are healed, you will be able to emotionally distance yourself from the losses you suffered and detach yourself from the past**.

Once you are ready to let go of your loss and move on to the next stage of your life, I can help you release the painful emotional feelings that are holding you back in your past. Somatic Hypnotherapy can help you uproot anger, rage, resentment, pain, guilt, explosive emotions and underlying feelings of helplessness and fear. This therapy can help you relieve your pain and remain calm and rational when thinking or talking about your loss**.

This approach helps you to overcome your loss and regain your zest for life swiftly. Somatic Hypnotherapy will not force any change in your thoughts or memories but helps leave all sorrow behind by helping you heal everything that holds you stuck in your past and prevents you from thinking, feeling, and living the way you want**. In this way, you can easily reintegrate into your social environment and resume the life you had before your suffering.

I can help you to develop a sense of renewed meaning and purpose in life and to reawaken your interest in new relationships, sex, hobbies, recreation, or other things you used to find enjoyable. I can help you regain your confidence. I can help you to become the person you always wanted to be**.

Whatever your grieving may be, don't allow it to cripple your life.

The "No Results - No Pay" principle guarantees my integrity and applies to all my therapies***.

Contact me and book your appointment today! Let this be the most exciting experience of your life, and I will be happy to help you on your journey.

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Disclaimer: The content of this page reflects the opinion of its author, is provided for educational and general informational purposes only, and does not constitute medical, psychological, or professional advice. I do not make any diagnoses according to recognized classifications (DSM-5, ICD-10) and I do not interfere in any way with ongoing treatments.

If you are already under medical care or treatment, follow their advice and treatment. I am not a doctor or licensed psychologist in Quebec; therefore, I cannot establish or continue a treatment based on your diagnosis. If you decide to consult me, be prepared to tell me what is bothering you and how you feel about it. 

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*In Somatic Hypnotherapy, the terms "feelings" and "emotional feelings" are often used interchangeably and refer to sensory experiences perceived onto or within the body, assessed, interpreted, and integrated through interoception and conceptualized by the rational mind as "emotions." - which is consistent with their traditional, biological and medical meanings, but differs considerably from the meaning of the term 'feeling' in cognitive psychology, where it often converges and merges with the term 'emotion'.

**The results may vary from person to person.

***In other words, if at the end of your session you don't see any improvement in the issues addressed in therapy, I won't accept your money!

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